My Big News is…

I’m sorry I trolled you all so hard last week, but I genuinely do have great big news and I’m very excited about it. Your reactions made it all worth it!

Without further ado, I’m delighted to announce that…

I’ve been offered a job in Sydney!

Just in case you wanted to find out what the news was and you’re not too bothered about anything else, thanks for reading and you can go now. If you want to know details and/or you are interested in pitching in with some useful information, please read on.

So are you going to take it?

I really, really hope so! It all depends on being granted a visa. Which we won’t know about until a few weeks before we’re due to fly out (not stressful at all).

Why do you want to go to Sydney anyway?

I think this post should make things fairly clear.

What about work?

I’m categorically not one of those people who quits my job to travel the world – good for others, not for me. I am too risk averse and, clue in the title of this ‘ere blog, I am a nester. I need a home.

So I have negotiated a transfer with my current employer. I’ll be working for the ANZ branch of my company who are sponsoring me to move out and start work with them. Subject to that whole visa thing, of course.

Is this a forever thing or what?

We’ll be going for a two year trial period, and we’ll reassess at the end of that.

I’m quite clear that this is a real trial, not a device to ease people gently into the reality that we’re leaving forever. Neither of us have ever lived abroad before, and we genuinely might decide at the end of the two years that it’s really not for us. Having spoken to a couple of other expats we feel confident that two years is a good length of time, as apparently the first year is somewhat difficult…! Aside from that, you never know what might happen in two years and for whatever reason we may feel that we are best off elsewhere. At this moment I really couldn’t say and I’m really very happy with that!

When are you leaving?

We have flights booked at the end of March. So we have about three and a half months to get this show on the road.

So it’ll be nose straight to the grindstone?

Well, me being me, I was quite adamant that S and I needed a decent break between jobs. Call it a transition into expat life, if you will. Therefore we’re not starting work in Australia until the beginning of May, which leaves us about a month to make our way from the UK to Sydney. Thus far we’ve booked in to see some friends in Thailand, so we have flights to Bangkok and no further. I neeeed travel suggestions for the rest of the month, if you can help please read on…

Are you having a leaving party?

Yes, and you’re invited. Actually, we’ll probably have a few smaller parties as aligning all people from all spheres of life is basically impossible these days.

But what about all your stuff?

We will be selling as much as we possibly can. Shipping is expensive yo, and most of our belongings won’t be relevant in Australia eg all my fleece lined items of clothing. We still have some tough decisions to make on things like wedding china and books, though.

Tell me. How are you really feeling about it all?

I’m excited, obviously. It’s been great hearing people’s positive reaction to the news, and most have been really kind about it. Of course, I’m also sad to be moving away from my family and friends, but as I was saying to a friend of mine the other day, a lot of them are moving about themselves or undergoing significant life changes that make it harder for me to see them. When it all comes down to it, you can’t live your life for other people anyway.

Aside from that, I’m pretty nervous about all the stuff I have to get done between now and the move; I have no idea how I’m going to fit it all in. I have a feeling these next few months are going to be full.on.

Is there anything I can do to help?

Why yes, kind reader, there is and I’m so glad you offered. I’m looking for help with a few things.

  1. Are you also an expat? I’m looking for expat tips. Any expat tips. I’m going to put together a collaboration post with my favourite ones so if you want to get involved please send me an email.
  2. I’m also looking for expat blogs to follow. I need a role model. I read quite a few expat blogs and I love all of them, but I haven’t found anyone in *quite* my situation yet. The situation being a couple who expats themselves where the husband is the ‘trailing spouse’ (sidenote: I hate that term but it seems to be de rigeur in expat blogging circles). I thought it would be easy to find one but I can’t seem to. If you know of any please leave a link in the comments, tweet a post to me or email me their details.
  3. I’m desperate for travel tips for our month transition. If you’ve been to anywhere amazing in between Bangkok and Sydney please let me know all about it, I’m all ears. I’m open to all options here!

Ok that’s it. I’m so excited! I’m only sorry I’m not starting an armadillo rescue centre after all…

-Rachel

Linking up with Van, Marcella, Lauren and Isabel  for the last Wanderlust Wednesday of the year. Thanks for hosting ladies, and enjoy your Christmas breaks. See you in the New Year!

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  1. S
    13th December 2016 / 16:58

    🙂

    • 16th December 2016 / 20:17

      Oh wow, what fabulous news, I’m obviously biased, because I came from Sydney. We’ve moved to Yamba so make sure you put that on your list of places to visit when you get here.
      Have a fabulous Christmas with your family and friends and here’s to a wonderful new adventure. I think you’re going to love it here. X

  2. 13th December 2016 / 17:15

    I knew it! That’s so exciting that you were offered a job in Sydney and that you’ll be able to make the trek over there for a trial run! I think it’s perfect that you’re giving yourself about a month to do some traveling before you really start working and I can’t wait to see where all you travel to! We have friends that are living in Italy right now and they do say that it’s hard to be away from family, but at least you’re going to be living somewhere that people want to visit!

  3. 13th December 2016 / 17:17

    OMG, congratulations. That’s amazing to get a chance to live there. I hope your visa situation works out. And I agree with you about having a home, while dropping everything and traveling sounds great, there are still goals and careers. Good luck getting your visa

  4. 13th December 2016 / 17:55

    How exciting! Hope the visa process goes smoothly for you. I’m an Australian expat living in London now and Sydney is where I grew up, so if you have any questions about expat life or Sydney/Australia life I’d be happy to try and answer them. I agree that 2 years is a good amount of time for a trial run. I came out to London with the intention of staying for 2 years and during the first 6 months I was convinced I wouldn’t want to stay longer than that cause the adjustment was sooo hard. But I’m still here 4 years later!

  5. Jen
    13th December 2016 / 18:03

    This is absolutely amazing, I am so excited for you and this new adventure! What a chaotic and amazing time in your life! 🙂

  6. 13th December 2016 / 18:07

    Congratulations! This is the best news. What an exciting adventure!! I went to New Zealand for about 3 weeks and I loved it so much. I highly recommend it. If you want to travel a bit further I’m also partial to Hawaii! I would recommend going to Kauai or the Big Island if you do find yourself over in this part of the world. I can’t wait to read along and see where life takes you over the next couple of years.

  7. 13th December 2016 / 18:47

    yayyy congrats!

    2 years is brilliant. the first year will be the hardest. that being said – you have family there, and you’ve been several times. so i hope it won’t be as hard for you as it was for some people.

    as for expat tips? i mean, like i said – you’ve been there and you have family there. like you, i don’t know a lot of people in my situation, they all tend to be american going to fancy places and i feel like i shouldn’t complain or have any issues because i went from one great country to another and they both speak english. and at least england and australia are somewhat similar – not in an obvious way, but i feel like i would have been more comfortable or had less issues moving to england instead of america (not that i would have considering husband is here) because of our similarities.

    also. because you and your husband are both moving.. you’re in it together. the hardest thing for me was being alone. no, i wasn’t alone because i had friends and KC, but absolutely NO-ONE else in the situation with me. and there is only so much complaining, comparing or being down about things those people can take. i love KC but he just doesn’t understand why i get sad randomly, or miss stupid things like fish and chips or words. i get super emotional when i think of a word that i had forgotten about because i never use it, and i can’t use it because no-one knows what i am talking about and you really just cause more headaches for yourself by trying to continue to use words or do things from your old life, you know?

    anyway. i’m kind of rambling and perhaps this isn’t helpful, and your experience will be different to mine of course, but for me, accepting the new and different, embracing it, allowing yourself to get homesick but not depressed, force yourself to do things but also let yourself relax with a book and a blanket when you don’t feel like being out in the world that’s not your own.

    honestly, i’m making it sound awful, and like i said, our situations are completely different and i honestly don’t think you’ll have *that* much trouble, or have it be as different or awful as other expats.. not like you’re not special, but you know what i mean? having your husband be in it with you, plus the fact you’ve been there and love it, PLUS family – all of those things should make it much easier for you. plus, australia is awesome, right? don’t ever move to kentucky. i joke, i joke (but seriously).

    my biggest tip? MAKE TIME FOR YOUR FRIEND WHO IS VISITING IN 2017.

    kthanksbye.

  8. 13th December 2016 / 19:03

    Hi! Congrats on the big news!!! My husband is a technically a “trailing spouse” although I don’t really like that term either haha. Email me if you want, :)(amy@amyandthegreatworld.com). Also, have you read the blog Alkeks Abroad? I believe they moved to Australia for her husnand’s job 🙂

  9. 13th December 2016 / 20:02

    Rachel! I’m squealing with delight! I’m looking forward to our monthly tea dates (at gluten free friendly cafes, of course). We can discuss all things expat.
    Technology can be your best friend. Between apps like viber, Skype, emails, FB messenger, and more there are definitely options to stay connected to loved ones back home. And, I know this sounds lame, but you will soon discover who is willing to put forth the effort to maintain your relationship and who isn’t.
    But. That still doesn’t replace the hollow feeling that appears when I miss a birthday, a wedding, or any other celebration for a loved one.
    I agree with Kristen, I think it will be wonderfully helpful (and exciting) that you and S will be experiencing this together. And having family here is a fantastic bonus as well.
    As for travels, I have so many places on my Wishlist. We can talk about this over tea 🙂
    If I can do ANYTHING during this transition, do not hesitate to ask.

  10. 13th December 2016 / 20:40

    YAY! big congrats to you!!! I can’t wait to follow along with your journey 🙂

  11. 13th December 2016 / 21:24

    I travelled Southeast Asia a few years ago and my absolute favorite place was Cambodia. There’s so much history plus they have amazing beaches. Pai (mountain town in Northern Thailand) is really neat as well. Can’t wait to hear more about your travels!

  12. 13th December 2016 / 22:26

    i am SO excited for you. i mean duh it’s not like we couldn’t figure this one out haha. but seriously this is just the best adventure you should totally do and i cant wait to follow along. i have never moved abroad – only to the other side of the country and that was alone. it was very difficult alone but seriously even one friend would have helped so i have total faith it’ll go well. EEK yes!

  13. 13th December 2016 / 23:23

    YESSSS!!! Such good/huge news!! I can’t wait to read about all the GF Australian surprises (I hear this is the country of brunch?!). I am happy to share my expat ideas and experience – having done it twice albeit neither time to Oz (or with a spouse). When’s your collab post going up?

    Again, so exciting!

  14. 13th December 2016 / 23:59

    Woohoo! Congrats on the new job and the upcoming move!
    I did the same, except moved from Australia to Okinawa,Japan 2 years ago now, and it was definitely hard at first, but gets easier. I think the first 6-8 months is the hardest and is when homesickness sets in, but I think the fact that you already know people in Australia, and that it’s also English speaking will make it much easier 🙂

  15. 14th December 2016 / 02:02

    Holy moly! This is amazing and I am so genuinely excited and happy for you 🙂 I just discovered your blog today, but I can’t wait to follow along!

  16. 14th December 2016 / 10:50

    Wahoo!! Congrats to you! I wish you the best of luck on this new adventure!! Look forward to seeing your new adventures! #WanderfulWednesday

  17. 14th December 2016 / 11:23

    Congrats! That is really exciting! I’m an expat myself and am happy to contribute to posts! Best of luck with the visas 🙂

  18. 14th December 2016 / 12:02

    I’m so excited for you and can’t wait to see this next chapter in your life unfold!!! Crossing my fingers that everything works out with the visa…I know how stressful that can be! xo

  19. 14th December 2016 / 13:03

    I’m so excited for you Rachel!!! This is such major news and so exciting that you’ll get to experience living and working in another country. 2 years seem like a good length of time. One year passes by super fast! And if you need some suggestions of where to go in SEA before heading over to Sydney… come visit meeeeee! 🙂

    I hope everything works out with the visa!! xx

  20. 14th December 2016 / 14:45

    How very very exciting! I was secretly wishing this would be the case!! As for expat advice, I think 2 years is a pretty good length to decide if that is the live you want to live. At least, that is what happened to me. You will have to go a thick skin though, as distance sometimes makes relationships quite vulnerable. You will have to assess your priorities and build a level of empathy and understanding that you previously never thought was not possible. Try to not compare too many things at the beginning, in respect to your home country. But it is healthy to find friendships in the same situation as you, as you will be able to vent and laugh about all the silly things that come with cultural shock. And since I am also in the trailing spouse situation, lol, I can only say that all the changes and shocks and moves has only made us stronger. I am sure it will be the case with you as well. If either of you ever feels frustrated, and you feel like you can’t give more empathy, that is when you push harder. Try to find the ridiculousness in the situations and laugh it off. And again, try what fits you both as a couple. There won’t be a lot of people in the same situation as you, and even if they did, they might not see the same things as you. Remember that this is your life and there is never a wrong or right decision. It is about learning to deal with the consequences, whether they are good or bad. You are in charge of your journey here, but don’t be scared.. it is the most exciting thing ever!! You will love it and discover things in yourself that you probably didn’t know before 🙂 Good luck and wish you the best!!

    • 14th December 2016 / 14:46

      was possible typo!! sry haha.

  21. 14th December 2016 / 14:49

    Again, I’m so happy for you and this is so exciting! Can’t wait to read more about your move. Good luck with everything 🙂

  22. 14th December 2016 / 14:54

    Eeeeeeeeeee so exciting!!!!! ☺️☺️☺️☺️ I’m too jet lagged in America right now to think of any advice but I will get back to you. We loved Vietnam! You should probably stop by Brisbane at some point too 😉.

  23. 14th December 2016 / 16:37

    This is so exciting! Congratulations on the job offer! I can’t wait to read all your Australia posts 🙂 #wanderfulwednesday

  24. 14th December 2016 / 17:53

    Super exciting!! You will get to be with your sister now then right? You leave one set of people but you will be close to some family and that is amazing. Wow girl. You made it happen. Chucking it all to travel is too scary for someone like me as well, but you have managed to get the security AND the travel and that is awesome. Hope the visa works out.

    • 14th December 2016 / 17:57

      Oh, and she doesn’t have a trailing spouse (omg funny terminology) but this blogger is an expat to Australia.
      http://seasaltsecrets.com/

  25. 14th December 2016 / 19:55

    So SO happy for you!! This is such exciting news 🙂 Eeeeee, I’m actually smiling from ear-to-ear for you. Really happy that we all get to follow along with your adventure 😀

  26. 14th December 2016 / 22:38

    Yay – congratulations!! Very excited for you. Sydney is a great place – so much going on there and around it ! 😀 Your going to a fantastic area for travel on the way too – if it were me I’d travel up through Thailand to Burma… but really whatever you pick round that part of the world will be fab! Enjoy every second 🙂

  27. 15th December 2016 / 01:33

    So awesome! I am sure this is an excellent opportunity for you. I am sure you are going to find the advice you need. #wanderfulwednesday

  28. 15th December 2016 / 02:26

    Aw a job offer in Australia?! An even more exciting news than I expected! 😀 A job will make the transition a lot easier haha, how exciting! Well I wish you the very best (with visa shenanigans and the move, etc). I’ll be happy to be involved in your expat posts if you wanted 🙂 xx

  29. 15th December 2016 / 14:27

    Rachel that’s an exciting news! A bit nerve-wracking when you do it for the first time, but still very exciting. My husband and I have pretty much the same lifestyle, we move from country to country based on where his job sends us. Thus, I am a trailing spouse. I love every minute of it. In our cases we don’t always have a say where go, so some countries are better than others (Haiti vs. Japan, pretty obvious), but the idea of moving around, settling down at a new place for a while (two to three years), having plenty of time to explore new countries and learn about their culture – all of this is priceless for me. And yes, two-three years is pretty sufficient, unless you fall in love with the place and decide to extend. There are also certain challenges that come with it. For me it is finding new friends every single time. It gets a bit draining for me to have to build new relationships every time, and for some reason it’s not getting easier the more I mature. I also always stress about finding a new job, and my career is obviously not a priority because I don’t have enough time to grow professionally. But overall, it’s all worth it. If you have questions, please don’t hesitate to email me and ask. You should also consider visiting Japan since you have some spare time. Although, because you will be so close, hopping over to Cambodia from Thailand will make more sense, flights are ridiculously cheap. I’d also would love to partake in your collaborative post, if you’ll have space. 🙂 Anyway, very very happy for you! P.S. Maybe we’ll meet up in Sydney some time? I want to visit so badly! 🙂

  30. 15th December 2016 / 17:38

    Yay!!! Congrats on your big news! I hope the transition goes well and I look forward to following along as you learn to expat in Australia. I cannot wait to see any pictures you take there since I’m dying to go (for a vacation, not to live). I do have to say that if you have any intention on coming to the US for vacations in the future, though, I feel sincerely sorry for you. Because that flight. I don’t even know how long it is, but I know 7-8 hours is virtually a walk in the park comparatively. 🙂

  31. 16th December 2016 / 04:45

    Congratulations and best wishes for your upcoming move to Sydney, Rachel! Why not visit Malaysia after your visit to Thailand? I really enjoyed traveling around Malaysia away from Kuala Lumpur (KL) during the couple of times I visited the country. KL is great if you enjoy shopping.

  32. 16th December 2016 / 21:50

    A MASSIVE congrats to you Rachel! I just sent you a creepily long email of expat tips that I’ve learnt first-hand. It’s a shame you’ll get to Australia in Autumn, going into winter from a UK winter, but the summer later in the year will make up for it! #TheUltimateRabbitHole

  33. 16th December 2016 / 22:14

    That is big news. As a Sydneysider, I think it’s a wise and brilliant choice!

  34. 17th December 2016 / 03:48

    This is so so exciting! Yey! 😀 SO happy for you – this is the best news you could ever have!

    You are sure to get tons of good advice! Make sure to connect somehow – find a class, a group, a church etc that you can go to as soon as possible. While nice to connect with other expats, yes the first year is difficult and you don’t want to deliberately make yourself homesick, so try find some Aussies to get to know. It’s going to be a wonderful two years for you both! Can’t wait to read all about it. Although I am overdue a Sydney visit it’s looking less and less likely to happen anytime soon!

    Hope you are having a great weekend 🙂

    Away From The Blue Blog

  35. 17th December 2016 / 04:30

    How exciting! We upped sticks and left London 8 years ago and have not looked back, and we’re in Sydney! Happy to share tips and tricks – I had permanent residency and hubby got a temporary spouse visa but it was really easy to find jobs etc. I promise you, you won’t regret it!

  36. 19th December 2016 / 22:12

    AHHHH Rachel! So exciting!!! So happy to finally know the news! So happy that you’re taking the chance and moving abroad, especially since you haven’t done it before. (You never know until you try, right?!) And I think two years is the perfect amount of time, like you said. As someone who’s lived abroad twice now, I’ve come to see that the first year is always establishing yourself, making friends and figuring out a place, so to leave after only one sometimes doesn’t give somewhere a fair chance. BUT two years is the perfect amount of time to feel it out and see how you feel. And as hard as it is to leave friends and family, like you said, you can’t live your life for others. Plus with today’s technology and things like Facetime, no one is really ever too far! Can’t wait to follow along on this new adventure! 😀

  37. 23rd December 2016 / 22:03

    Wow!! Big news, really exciting! Moving abroad is huge!

    Your comment about the 2 years being a real ‘trial period’ made me laugh, though. Because…when I was 9, my Dad accepted a 9 month transfer and moved us to Kentucky from Michigan. My parents told all of our Michigan family that it was only for 9 months, for a fun life experience, and we’d be back….We extended the Kentucky stay to 2.5 years and later moved to Malaysia, where my parents have now lived for over 12 years. They never came back to Michigan to stay, and at this point, I don’t think they ever will.

    We’re at 2.5 years into our own expat life (BTW, if you’re not considering Malaysia in your pre-work travels, you should, because it’s pretty much the best place in the region)–not in the trailing spouse situation, though. When we moved to China, we both worked. Here, he has the work visa and I don’t, though I have plenty to keep me occupied, and this was my home in the past, so I sure don’t feel like a ‘trailing spouse’.
    I don’t know how/why people would quit their job to travel the world–besides, jobs sure make the whole visa thing a lot easier. My idea is get a job, and then move. 🙂

  38. 24th December 2016 / 10:23

    Yay – how exciting! Sounds like a great way for you guys to travel 🙂 As an expat myself, it’s one of the best things I’ve ever done!

  39. 9th February 2017 / 07:29

    Congrats!!! Looking forward to hearing more about the move and your travels on the way.

    SSG xxx

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